Randomly Selected Comments from My Brain

20120502-103803.jpgBe my friend because you like me, not because of what I can do for you or your organization.

I want to spend time with you, not just pay to attend the event you are hosting.

If I give my time, it’s because that’s all I have to give. If my involvement in your organization is tied to my bank balance, social standing or being the ‘right’ religion, that’s your loss. I really thought that Creed meant the same thing to everyone.

My depression problem is not a secret. Ask what is going on in my life and if you can help. I’d do the same to you.

I know you are busy. I’m busy too. Maybe we both need to try harder to keep in touch.

Not all my knowledge is based on a Google search. I have a college degree and life experience, too.

I will fight passionately for what I think is right, I will support you when I think you’ve been wronged. Don’t take advantage of that aspect of my personality. I’ll also work hard to make sure you stand on your own damn feet and then help you celebrate your successes when they happen.

Running a business with your spouse is hard.
Being a parent is hard, parenting an Aspie is even harder.

I don’t read every post on Facebook. If you have news you want me to know, call or write me personally.

If I say No, don’t take it personally. I need to have some boundaries in my life so I can carve out some time for me and my family.

Summertime in NoFLA

As you can probably guess, summertime in North Florida can be brutal. Between the heat, the humidity, the bugs, the heat, and the humidity, it’s enough to send folks streaming indoors for some cool air.

Even indoors, the need to cool off doesn’t go away, and cold drinks of all sorts often fit the bill. Although I’m officially a Yankee transplant to Florida, I’ve embraced some of the more traditional beverages of the region such as sweet tea or mint sweet tea, or for something a little more tart, the classic Arnold Palmer. If you are lucky enough to have a Meyer lemon tree in your yard (or have a generous neighbor), homemade lemonade is the way to go. Although it’s almost sacrilege down here, some folks prefer a well-made glass of iced coffee.

Since the Watermelon Festival is this coming weekend, you might choose to indulge in a watermelon margarita or even this totally kid-friendly faux salad caprese.

If you’ve got melon leftover, try my tropicalized fruit salad:

2 cups each seedless watermelon, cantelope, and honeydew melon chunks
1 cup seedless grapes
2 firm bananas, sliced
2 cups strawberries, halved if large
1 tin of guava paste, cut up*
1/2 cup shredded coconut, toasted (set aside)

Combine all the fruit ingredients a few hours before serving. Add the coconut and stir before serving – some of the guava will have ‘melted’ to coat the other fruits, giving everything a lovely sheen and sweet-tart tropical edge.

*You can use a 1/2 tin if you like, check this link for some more guava recipes

Simplification or How I’m Learning to Say No

As many of you know, I became ill towards the end of August and it has continued for several weeks. Although I’ve been to the doctor twice and had bloodwork done, nothing pointed to a specific cause. In short, the life I’d been leading or really, the pace, had made me sick.

Over the past few weeks I’ve had to force myself to listen to my body and rest when I needed to – 6 weeks later and I can finally get through a workday without napping once or twice. It’s been a maddening process for me. I’ve always been the go-go-go girl, not to mention the go-to-go-to girl. I never said no. A year or more ago I promised my family, and myself to some small extent, that I’d not take on too many volunteer and other commitments. It didn’t work out so well.

So, here I sit a year later and a lot wiser (I hope). I still have a lot of commitments, but I’ve not only said No to many requests, I’ve even given up some things to which I had already committed. I’m trying very hard to take the time I need to Be Here, Now.

During one of my daily walks with Ty, I realized that I need to simplify some aspects of my life. I really enjoy the whole social media thing – and it’s replaced the old Usenet and online forums in which I had invested (unwisely?) so much time. Twitter is my outlet for new media, new conversations and finding like-minded individuals. I have realized that I like Facebook better as a way to keep in touch with people I really know – as in real life or over years (sometimes decades) of online friendship. To that end, I’m going to start trimming off my Facebook friends list. Don’t take it personally –  I’m sure that someday, if we meet in person and connect, I’ll want to ‘friend’ you again. But the way my life has turned, I can’t keep up with your Etsy posts or your Farmville or Mafia Wars (or whatever the meme of the moment is). I’m content to play Scrabble and Bejeweled Blitz and see the pics of my friends’ new children and grandchildren, to check in on my niece and nephews or share a beady goody with the old crowd from RCB.

I need to learn what is important – because if I don’t, I’ll realize too late what should have been important. Don’t let that happen to you, OK?